personne ne sais (jesuismeursault) wrote in wise_tits,
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on suffering

suffering is interesting. by this, i mean the concept, not the experience. if someone suffers some ill and then speaks openly about it (whether the person is hunting for pity or not is irrelevant), there always seems to be another person who feels the need to minimize that suffering by doing one of two things: either mentioning that there are other people (named or unnamed) who have suffered just as much if not worse, or by pointing out that he himself has suffered as much or more than the speaker. why is this? what is with this compulsion? isn't pain just pain, after all? does it need to be quantified? and, once quantified, does it then need to be compared to other pains and ranked accordingly? simply because there is a situation that is somewhat worse than another, does that invalidate the right of the person in the second situation to speak about a legitimate hardship?

a friend of mine from college told me about an incident where he foolishly mentioned losing his mother at twelve to cancer and how that had affected him as a teenager. he said he'd once been told by someone else that he didn't have a right to complain (he wasn't complaining, btw, just saying) because some people have lost both of their parents. now, while that is invariably true, was it absolutely necessary to bring up? is there some unspoken level of credibility that must be attained before once can speak about suffering?
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